A town is a place but it is more that thing where stories tie together. Moments hilarious and terrible and amazing inspire nicknames and people gather at the favorite places. They come together to live and tell their stories. And it all adds up to form a bigger story, the story of a town. Virginia…
“One of the hardest things in this world is to admit you are wrong. And nothing is more helpful in resolving a situation than its frank admission.” – Benjamin Disraeli
In the few short weeks I’ve been at TWLOHA, I’ve seen what community should look like. Here in the bungalow, words become more than lip service; they are backed by action. Struggles become more than secrets; the house bands together to face them. Conversation is an open forum and judgment is hung out to dry.
What it leaves is a community of six young adults, raw and honest in their brokenness, walking in the strength of unity and discovering what it means to truly live.
One of the things we constantly find ourselves doing here at TWLOHA is encouraging other people to live an honest life, and walk with people who are hurting. That’s not easy. Honesty isn’t easy. When we force ourselves to be honest, we lay the facts – however ugly - on the table. It can be scary as hell to lay the truth out in the open, uninhibited by the lies we use to cushion it. It leaves us vulnerable. We fear people’s reactions or the repercussions.
But there’s freedom in honesty. Hard as it can be, I’ve found that every time honesty is better than the lies. Dishonesty weighs on our souls and has broken countless relationships. But honesty… honesty opens the door to begin to heal the places that have been broken.
Even when the truth hurts, by getting it out in the open we suddenly have the power to address the hurt and seek solutions. We begin a journey of healing and we can start to move forward and we do this with the people in our community whether it’s with family, friends, a mentor and/or even a counselor.
Honesty is freedom, and while freedom comes at a price I think we find that once we have it, the gain far outweighs the cost.